LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP!!!

FRIENDSHIP and LOVE.

I had thought of writing this blog since almost a year now.... never really had the time.... now that I really made some time for it.... Here it is.... quite controversial... I would have named it FRIENDSHIP VS LOVE... but that would be idiotic of me to name it so... here it is FRIENDSHIP and LOVE - again I have penned down my personal opinions... comments are welcome..... critics are more than welcome. ;)

FRIENDSHIP is something which is such a beautiful thing that I will never be able to define it - I will never try to.... It is purely your own natural act... It is not a state of mind..... where as LOVE - as I understand is an intimacy that 2 individuals share and it is a lot different from FRIENDSHIP.... again I am not going to define LOVE not because I do not want to.... because I have never understood it and have never tried to.

In FRIENDSHIP, we share most of our time with friends.... and we share most of our thoughts, secrets and dreams which we do not even dare to do with our parents... FRIENDSHIP is one of the most precious things there is. Real friends will never judge us, nor will they ever reject us. They understand what we are like, where we are coming from, and why we do the things that we do. When we are with our friends, we do not have to worry about how we act or what we say, because our friends will let us be ourselves. The question is whether we can say the same things about LOVE. He or she could be our best friend or our soul mate even. They could be, but a lot of the time they are not. They are, however, the person we share our life with - most intimately. To our friends we are always open and honest, but to our lovers, some things are best kept secret. It is the friends that we sit with and share our deepest thoughts and secrets. LOVE wants to know every detail about us, but there are things we cannot share. We look our friends in the eye but our lovers, we look and look away before looking back again. Right??!!?

The LOVE in FRIENDSHIP has boundaries and I guess and I believe there is no place for physical intimacy, irrespective of the depth of the relationship.... and If there is such a thing it will no longer be FRIENDSHIP... And I do not say it is LOVE... but at the least, it is not FRIENDSHIP. In LOVE, the attachment grows to such an extent that if one person is pained.. the other also feels hurt.
The amount of time spent in LOVE is much more compared to FRIENDSHIP... but yet FRIENDSHIP is ever dependable.... And FRIENDSHIP is one thing which WILL last forever.... even if there is misunderstanding between friends they will remain as friends .... sometime in life.... when they meet they will be the same OL' friends no matter how bad things turned out sometime back... they still share the same attachment and the same feelings ...... But in LOVE.. if things go wrong and there is a misunderstanding.... It is very difficult to sort things out and if things do not work well and there is a breakup.... And then they meet after sometime.... Will the same LOVE exist..... ??? I do not agree.... (Some people may argue about what they call as "TRUE LOVE" - But the main criteria here is the TIME)

FRIENDSHIP is such a beautiful thing that life revolves around it.... It is more deeply encrusted that most stuffs are naturally understood by FRIENDS..... LOVE and FRIENDSHIP may commonly overlap, yet they are far from being the same.

Also, FRIENDSHIP is such a beautiful thing that even if it turns to LOVE..... It does not matter.... The intimacy grows stronger..... But what about LOVE.. can the same thing said about LOVE... can LOVE turn into FRIENDSHIP.... Again if someone agrees, I do not.

This is one of the things I found on the Internet... and I liked it.... Its funny too.
"FRIENDSHIP looks at the heart, not just the packaging it comes in. With LOVE, it's all about the gift wrap and ribbons (at least in the initial stages). FRIENDSHIP is more "comfortable" than LOVE. Friends LOVE us without make-up and in our grungiest pair of pajamas. Lovers like us to look our best for them."

Sometimes it so happens that two people who are in LOVE forget the rest of the world - they feel they do not need anyone else..... they feel that they can live like that forever.... And that is when life becomes imbalanced.... until a time when both feel that they HAVE lost something important in their lives... FRIENDSHIP.... probably this happens because LOVE is such a feeling that it makes people think that they can achieve anything and makes them forget the rest of the world... And in FRIENDSHIP.... there is the PERFECT balance in LIFE... To me, FRIENDSHIP is like hope in the way that LOVE is the same as faith. Both seem to walk side by side in our lives, but where hope can't be found, faith will never save our bad days. On the other hand, when hope is around, faith is never far behind, so FRIENDSHIP often needs to be a prerequisite of LOVE.

One of the major differences between LOVE and FRIENDSHIP is that which anyone should and will agree - FRIENDSHIP has extreme accommodation for one another.... and LOVE has extreme adoration for one another.. FRIENDSHIP can survive without LOVE... any day.. but LOVE cannot survive without FRIENDSHIP.

I have heard some people say that "LOVE is FRIENDSHIP set on fire." And I do not argue about it.... I say that if that is the case, LOVE cannot exist without FRIENDSHIP.... and they do not agree.. I say WTF.... It is better to leave such people alone.. they are fundamentalist assholes. If there is a fine line between LOVE and hate, there must be an invisible one between LOVE and FRIENDSHIP. Both are treasures every human seeks and desires - both are priceless when found. But again I had like to say that it is FRIENDSHIP that starts off LOVE.....

FRIENDSHIP sometimes becomes the platform for the LOVE journey. Some reserve the platform specifically for LOVE journey. And they call themselves a good friend only to cheat the gullible person. I really wish they knew " What is LOVE and FRIENDSHIP".

This is one more from the Internet which I liked:
"LOVE and FRIENDSHIP go hand in hand. FRIENDSHIP is an outward expression of LOVE just like marriage is an expression of LOVE between two human beings. There are lifelong friends who get married and live happily. If you are friends first and later become lovers, then life becomes even sweeter."

Again, I have had an argument with my colleague about it. He said " Unless you LOVE someone you cannot become their friend. There is an argument as to which comes first: LOVE or FRIENDSHIP? It is the same as asking the popular one: who comes first, chick or egg." How the hell can it be similar to "FIRST EGG OR FIRST CHICK" - Its highly fuckin obvious that it is FRIENDSHIP first. Again he is one fundamentalist asshole.

To end it, again I would like to quote something from the Internet which I liked (not too much..... but it just had its own internal meaning):
I believe the main reason it's hard to distinguish differences between LOVE and FRIENDSHIP is that FRIENDSHIP is a form of LOVE. In the English language, the word "LOVE" is used in very broad terms. Even though we all know there's a difference between "I LOVE pizza," and telling someone "I LOVE you," it's harder to break things down when we're comparing LOVE to another word.

Hope you guys enjoyed it... :)

- Abhi